While You Were Busy, Life Passed ByBy Jason Kotecki
This summer I enjoyed a nice vacation in Door County with my family. We rented a house that was just big enough for the eleven of us. We roasted marshmallows, fished for salmon, gazed at the stars, played mini golf, sampled wine, sat on the beach, and ate lots of cherry-related products (thumbs up on the cherry barbecue sauce). I also did something I haven’t done in years: I didn’t check e-mail or surf the internet once.
Somehow, the world continued to rotate on its 23-degree axis.
Now, it took some planning and preparation to pull it off. Before I left, I cleaned up my e-mail inbox, prepped all my web site files, and trained someone in the office to do the site updating. I had intended to check e-mail mid-week, but once I got a taste of living low tech, that goal didn’t take long to evaporate. It was a relaxing week.
And now for emphasis: the sun still rose and set on a regular basis and the business didn’t crumble to the ground.
Hmphf. It all makes me wonder why I place so much urgency and importance on checking my e-mail so many times a day. There were plenty of internet cafés I could’ve visited to “stay connected.” (Or in other words, “stay distracted.”) But then I might have missed out on playing catch with my brother, talking about our hopes and dreams. I might have missed out on the spirited game of Disney Uno with my nieces. Or the refreshing walk with my bride amidst a green cathedral of pine trees.
Our world is connected like never before. And all of our technological advancements are supposed to give us more time. Instead, we fall for the temptation of trying to pack more tasks into the time we’ve saved.
I heard a saying once that if the devil can’t make you bad, he’ll make you busy.
Adultitis thrives in all this busyness. And all this busyness tricks you into feeling like you’re productive. When you feel productive, you think you’re actually getting something accomplished. And when you think you’re getting something accomplished, you are fooled into believing that your work is not only obligatory, but indispensable.
But here’s what’s really happening: life is passing you by.
Many of us miss out on the important stuff because we’re convinced that the busyness is a standard operating procedure. And we’re deceived by the mirage that someday, if we work hard enough, our to-do list will be cleared. As David Allen reminds us in his book “Getting Things Done,” you will die with things STILL on your to-do list.
This never-ending hamster wheel is the part of adulthood you need to escape from now and then. As difficult as it may seem, you need to unplug yourself from the daily grind. To think it’s not possible is not only wrong, it’s flat out foolish. If your situation is really bad (like checking your cell phone for messages every minute on the minute bad), perhaps you should consider an all-out “tech sabbatical.”
These are the questions you need to seriously ask yourself: Do you really need to work extra to afford that lastest gadget? Will life cease to exist if you don’t check your e-mail three times before breakfast? What’s the worst that will happen if you don’t answer your cell phone while you’re having lunch with a friend?
Can you detach yourself from busyness for an hour a day? A day a week? A week every three months?
Here’s the biggie: What will you miss if you don’t?
Jason Kotecki is an artist, author, and professional speaker. Jason and his wife Kim (a former kindergarten teacher) make it their mission in life to fight Adultitis and help people use strategies from childhood to create lives with less stress and more fun. Learn more at www.KimandJason.com
